The time listed on a recent bridal shower invitation was 2 p.m. to 4:30 p.m. but a hostess told me later that it was a “floating shower” and I could just come and leave when I wanted. I thought the highlight of a bridal shower was to see the gifts opened? Also at the bottom of the invitation was a list of stores where the bride was registered. The things listed were fairly expensive and not in line with what I have usually seen at showers. What is the general price range for a shower gift?

Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Dear Guest,

There is no such thing as a ‘floating’ shower. This isn’t proper and you are correct that a shower that is a gift giving event is one where the guests enjoy the opening of the gifts. This seems to be a party in which the hosts want guest to come and drop the gifts off–not polite. I would imagine that the family is involved also.

Parties arranged such as this cause me to reach for stomach medicine.

There is no general price range for gifts. But, shower gifts are supposed to be less expensive than wedding gifts. Most do not know this.

This is another reason why many brides don’t want anything to do with the ‘gifting’ showers and are opting for the ‘gift-less’ because of the negative connotation.

If you do not attend, it is not mandatory to send a gift.

Best wishes,