I have looked, but do not see this question being addressed.

My husband and I will be renewing our vows for our 10th Anniversary in 2011; we have recently come through some difficult times that have miraculously strengthened our love and commitment to one another. He would like to do it know, but I’d rather not have questions arise was to why we are doing it on our 9th anniversary, so we have decided to wait for a milestone of 10; which is a milestone for us considering.

My question is this, my husband wants to get me a new ring to give to me that day, but he has expressed his desire to keep his ring; and he doesn’t want to wear two rings. I will continue to wear my wedding band/engagement ring on my left hand, and will wear the new ring he gives me on my right.

How could we exchange rings, since mine will be new and his will be his original? Would it be odd to exchange our original rings with our original ring pledge, but obviously tweak it for renewal, then have him present me with the new ring as a symbol of his continued love and commitment? But I don’t want it to seem that I’m not recommitting my love to him by not presenting him with a new ring also. I’m not sure how to go about this. I know there are no rules, but a couple suggestions would be very appreciative.

Thank you…

Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

There is no ring exchange part of a vow renewal ceremony, as this is not a wedding and rings are not necessary. But, it is not incorrect to give new rings as a new commitment to each other. If done, he could present you with the new ring while stating why he is giving it to you. Please remember that this isn’t a wedding, so the ceremony doesn’t include wedding-like ceremony segments, phrases or language. All language should reflect a reaffirmation of your wedding vows.